This article is written for those that have difficulty or think they have difficulty talking to and developing a relationship with girls.  It is easy for such articles to be mocked and dismissed as the best advice you can get is just be yourself.  The problem with that is that if you are not confident and feel under a lot of pressure in these situations then "just being yourself" is never going to work.    There really is too much to cover in just one article but if you are having problems then you need somewhere to start.  You will need to go out and practice,   think of it as a fun thing with no goals. Follow my suggestions in this article and you will develop the space to be yourself.    

If you are having difficulty speaking to girls then the first thing you need to do is make changes in the way you think.  In particular how you think about girls. 

Girls think about things and see the world in a completely different way from guys.  Guys are simple and uncomplicated dumbos.  When speaking with girls it is very important to remember they are much more observant that guys, in language, body language, clothes etc.  Girls process the implications of everything that is said and done to a much greater level than guys, so generally speaking their world is completely different from yours.  In particular this is very important as girls are 100% aware when they are being hit on. 

With that in mind the second most important thing to remember is don't ask girls for advice on this subject.  Girls will tell you what they want said to them and how they want treated but what they don't realise is that they are describing what they want from a guy they have already decided is attractive, what we are talking about in this article is getting to that stage in the first place.  Compliments and manners are completely overrated and are worse than useless for your purpose if the girl does not, in some way, find you attractive already.

Ok so the number one thing that a girl wants in  a guy is a guy who is confident, not super human, just confident.  I suggest you spend some time talking with girls that you do not find particularly attractive, practice being a little bit cheeky in a joking fashion.  You can experiment with self deprecation, making jokes about yourself, but you need to be careful with this as it does not fit into the mind set of some nationalities.[Aussies and Germans don't understand laughing at yourself]. 

These things do not come naturally to anybody, you will need to practice, so you should think carefully about where you can go to meet girls.  A club or a bar can be ok are not always the best place because unless you are experienced the pressure is on, everybody knows why you are there and they are looking for you to perform.  Maybe a sports or social club, dancing classes for instance are ideal.   Give it some thought.

Ok so you are going out to practice.  This is a perfect way to think about it.  Keep the pressure off yourself.  You are not going out to get a girl, you are going out to practice.  If you can really keep in this mind set you will do yourself a lot of good as girls are so aware of what is going on and anybody trying too hard is a real turn off.

  The ideal scenario is if you can create a situation where the girl is unaware that you are trying.  I'll finish off with a quick set of rules for these practice sessions.  Think about these in advance and how they are going to affect how you behave.

Rules for your practice sessions.

1.      For an easy opening line talk about what is happening there and now.

2.      Generally don't ask questions as an opening line.

3.      Never offer to buy a girl a drink.

4.      Never try to hit on any of the girls you are going to speak to.

5.      Don't talk about yourself.

6.      Never ask for a name.  This simple act is trying too hard.  If the girl asks your name that is fine you are the one who started the conversation so it is fine for her to ask your name and then you can get hers.

7.      Use humour where you can.  !Don't tell jokes!

8.      Very Important ! Don't hang on to the conversation, keep it short, say bye before she does, go and talk to somebody else.   You are practicing, you can always come back much later.

9.      If during this practice an attractive girl asks you for a favour, like buying her a drink, or letting her into the front of the que, taking her coat to the cloak room, or carrying her bag then you have NOT made it, in fact completely the opposite it means she thinks you might be a pushover.  You must very politely say no.  Even better turn it round and very politely say you would like her to buy you a drink as the bar looks a bit busy right now and she will get served quicker than you.  Never buy this girl a drink!  Be very careful of this girl as you find her attractive and she has demonstrated that she is trying to manipulate you.  You should ignore this girl, she is for advanced techniques.

10.  Go and have some fun.